I love these ladies. Their blog, Sunday Women , is so down to earth and practical. They have done a whole series of articles on the "4 questions to ask" theme. As a pastor I often hear people say that they didn't talk to a visitor because they didn't know what to say. Here is a good response. Churches need new people. Most new people come to us as visitors who are strangers. The Bible wants us to welcome strangers and meet their needs (Matthew 25:35), but some people don't talk to strangers. I hear many reasons for their hesitancy, such as fear that the "visitor" has been attending for a year already or inability to deal with awkward silences. I agree that some visitors are private, reserved types who don't want to answer lots of probing questions. And, most people are not comfortable with a church on the first visit. In fact, my husband and I repeatedly tried, and then disregarded, a common hospi...